wavenovel Chapter 171 Establishing a Family and Career
Chapter 171 Establishing a Family and Career
"We meet again, Director Xu." Dawei smiled warmly, using all the enthusiasm he had accumulated from asking for instructions.
"Don't use titles at home, just call me Uncle, Dawei." Xu Aiguo gently pressed Dawei's hand down.
The big boss's hands are soft and warm, always giving people a very kind and approachable feeling.
"Okay, Uncle Xu."
Ding Tingting's father invited them to sit down and eat.
Xu Aiguo naturally took the seat of honor, with Dawei sitting beside him.
The liquor is vintage Moutai, which is the basic configuration, while the dishes are home-style cooking.
Ding Tingting seemed a little nervous, even more so than Dawei, and kept putting food on Dawei's plate.
During the meal, Ding Tingting's mother couldn't help but inquire, "Dawei, did you enjoy the food?"
"It's perfect, very delicious."
"Hehehe... We're all from the same province, so our tastes should be pretty much the same... Who usually cooks at your house?"
"My dad and mom both do it, they take turns. I'm busier with work, so I do it less often."
"You can cook too?"
"My parents taught me how to cook some home-style dishes when I was a child."
Ding Tingting's mother laughed even harder: "Young people like you are rare these days. Unlike our Tingting, who can't do any housework, she can't even fold a quilt properly."
Tingting blushed and shook her shoulders, scolding, "Oh, Mom, what are you saying..."
Xu Aiguo looked at Tingting with doting eyes, a smile playing on his lips as he teased, "Little girl, you're shy. This isn't like you. What's wrong? Dawei's home today, and you've changed?"
"Uncle!" Ding Tingting pouted so high that her upper lip looked like it could hold a weight: "You're laughing at me too."
Ding Tingting's father and Xu Aiguo, two elderly men, were amused to see the young, lively, beautiful and lovely Ding Tingting so anxious.
It's easy to see that Ding Tingting is the little princess of their family, showered with love and affection.
With such a background, one can avoid so many detours, and Dawei couldn't help but feel envious.
However, the Dawei of today is not the Dawei of the past.
He knew very well that although Xu Aiguo was sitting in the host's seat at today's dinner, the main character in everyone's hearts was him, Chen Dawei.
Of all the people present, only Ding Tingting genuinely liked Dawei; the others probably had ulterior motives.
What's the point?
It's all because he's Wang Guozheng's godson.
With that in mind, David relaxed and became less restrained and tense.
From Ding's mother's question, Dawei realized that tonight's dinner was not as simple as Tingting had said. Her family wanted to use the dinner to push things forward.
At the very least, we need to determine what our intentions are.
Ding's mother gestured for the two old men to stop laughing, then looked at Dawei again and asked, "Dawei, Auntie has a question for you. It might be a bit presumptuous, but please don't be angry."
Ding Tingting immediately became anxious upon hearing this. They had agreed not to say anything inappropriate, and to treat it as a friend coming over for dinner, a chance for everyone to get to know each other. So she quickly interrupted, "If you know it's presumptuous of you to ask, why are you asking?"
Ding's mother waved to her daughter, signaling her to shut up, then asked Dawei with a forced smile, "I heard from my daughter that you recently got divorced?"
"Yes." Dawei nodded generously in agreement.
"So, do you have any plans to remarry?"
"I will definitely remarry, but I won't consider it in the next two years."
Ding Tingting's three elders all looked at Dawei.
Ding's mother frowned and asked again, "You're not young anymore. Given your circumstances, it shouldn't be difficult for you to find someone else. Why don't you consider it?"
Remarry soon and have a baby.
When you reach our age, you'll be old enough to be a grandfather.
Isn't this good?
Dawei put down his chopsticks, having lost all interest in eating, and sensed the urgency in Ding's mother's tone and expression.
This eagerness is essentially a lack of self-respect.
She felt that she was someone who could be easily seduced, manipulated, and controlled.
Or rather, I felt that I was inferior to their family, and that I had to accept their offer; it was their family who were giving me an advantage.
Ding Tingting kept giving her mother meaningful glances, but the woman pretended not to notice.
David maintained a polite smile, glanced at Xu Aiguo who was drinking soup with his head down, and then looked at the burning gaze coming from Ding Tingting's father: "I made a promise to the higher-ups."
In the next three years, we must achieve remarkable results and make a name for ourselves in Yuanshan County.
The next two or three years will be quite busy with work.
I simply don't have the leisure or inclination to consider personal matters.
Organizationally, in order to maintain the stability of cadres, the personal life of cadres is also taken into consideration when promoting them. Minister Xu is the most professional in this regard.
I will definitely get married in the future.
But not now.
When Xu Aiguo saw Dawei mention him, he nodded slightly in response without saying a word.
The unspoken understanding hadn't been revealed, but everyone present was shrewd. While seemingly discussing Dawei's personal life, they were actually discussing the possibility of a relationship between Dawei and Tingting. By not mentioning Tingting's name, they were saving face for her.
"Dawei, I have serious reservations about your point of view." Ding's mother's expression turned somewhat serious.
Saying something about "high degree of reservation" is just a form of opposition.
David listened attentively, nodding in agreement.
Ding's mother held up one finger and pointed, saying, "You young people are prone to a misconception, which is that you think work and life are separate and should be viewed as separate things."
They believe that mixing them together will confuse the two things.
I feel that work and life are two sides of a contradiction.
Working can affect your life, and living your life can interfere with your work.
This is a huge misconception.
Look at me and your uncle—I think your parents are the same, isn't that how we all got by?
Our marriage hasn't affected our work at all.
Mr. Ding nodded repeatedly: "Yes, yes, yes."
I have the authority to speak on this point; I've experienced it myself.
In fact, it's said that men's careers become more stable and their ambitions become stronger after they have families.
Because the burdens and responsibilities on one's shoulders become heavier, the intrinsic motivation becomes stronger.
With a smile, David gave Mr. Ding a thumbs-up, waving it up and down, and sincerely replied, "Uncle is right, your theoretical level is high, very high."
Xu Aiguo's eyebrows twitched slightly. From Dawei's few words, he could tell that Dawei didn't want to face the issue of relationships and seemed to be running away from it.
At this point, as the ballast stone of Ding Tingting's family, he had no choice but to step forward and speak up.
"Dawei, Uncle Xu is older, and I agree with Tingting's father's point of view."
To settle down and start a family.
A man can only establish a career after he has a family.
Hasn't our nation always been like this for thousands of years?
Dawei nodded slightly with a serious expression, never expecting that Xu Aiguo, who was in a high position, would say such a thing.
This kind of decadent thinking is only applicable to the feudal era; this trend of thought is no longer suitable for the contemporary era.
Starting a family and establishing a career are not necessarily related in essence.
It is a theoretical weapon created by parents to facilitate their offspring of the same age.